So often, we get busy with our day to day lives and don’t step back to look at the big picture. Are you enjoying life? Or does life feel like a struggle? Do you wake each day thinking, “Today I have to…”” or do you wake thinking, “Today I get to…” There is a big difference.

I recently coached a client most people would describe as successful. Married with two children, Christina* worked as a registered nurse supervisor. She lives in a nice neighborhood, drives a late model SUV, and recently traveled to Hawaii with her family.

But, Christina felt unhappy. She did not enjoy her work anymore. She liked her co-workers and she received plenty of recognition for her efforts at work. But, she felt something missing.

Christina’s job was the end result of a series of choices Christina made over the last fifteen years.

When faced with an opportunity, Christina always made the most “sensible” choice. Her series of sensible choices landed her in an “okay” job and an “okay” life. But, many days, she came home feeling depleted. Her job drained her energy. Some days, she did not want to go to work. Many days, she had a gnawing voice telling her something was missing from her life. Many days, she woke up thinking, “Today, I have to…”

When Christina came to coaching, we had an honest conversation about what Christina really wanted. What a powerful conversation!

For the first time in years, Christina gave herself permission to dream. Although she liked being a nurse, it was not her first career choice. Highly creative, with an entrepreneurial spirit, Christina felt boxed in by the structure of her job. She really wanted to start her own business.

For the first time in her life, Christina made a choice many might consider to be “un-sensible.” Christina decided to start her own business as a wedding planner.

Christina did not do this hastily. She spent months learning about business, researching the market in her area, talking to other small business owners and developing a solid back-up plan in case her business failed. She did all of this while she continued to work in her nursing job.

In the process, something amazing happened!

In spite of taking on even more work as she developed her business and worked full-time, Christina felt excited and energized. She woke up each morning looking forward to the day ahead. Maybe that day she would have lunch with another business owner. Or, maybe she would spend time working on her business plan after her children went to bed. It really didn’t matter how much time Christina devoted to her business on a given day. Christina got to do something everyday that excited her.

By the time Christina walked away from her steady paycheck, she had so much momentum going, fear no longer consumed her. Even though Christina faced plenty of obstacles and financial risk as she developed her business, she persisted. It did not take long before Christina made more money from her business in one week than she made from a month working as a nurse.

Christina’s success is not effortless. She works very hard at it. But, to Christina, it feels effortless. Christina loves what she does each day. She is pursuing her passion.

Did you wake this morning thinking, “Today, I get to…” or did you wake thinking, “Today, I have to…?” Those two thoughts highlight the difference between thriving and surviving. When you wake thinking, “I get to…,” you’re having fun in your life and work. You’re experiencing each day as a new opportunity to get to do what you love. Work can be fun and when it is, you thrive.

It’s your life. Are you having fun?

*Name and identifying information changed. Used with client’s permission.

Life Style Coaching is a powerful approach in assisting you in changing direction and implementing behaviour changes which will produce new outcomes.

Exhausted and depressed all the time? Life Style Coaching can provide you with the answers on How to overcome this.

Frustrated and feeling that you are not getting anywhere? That’s where the Life Style Coaching can provide you the solutions you have been searching for.

When you are not satisfied with the results you are producing, then you want to change. However so often when you make new resolutions, after a while you are back to the old patterns again.

When you implement the Evolution approach you will create new, supportive behaviours and this will create new, desired outcomes.

You will become more aware about strengths rather than focusing upon your weakness. The focus upon the weakness or incompetence is a worldwide phenomenon.

Trying to fix something all the time, rather than having the focus upon your strong qualities.

There seems to be a worldwide obsession to fix what’s wrong.

Sometime we are so caught up in it that it hard to recognize. That’s where the Life Style Coaching comes in.

Einstein said,” The current problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking with which they were created.”

Would you think in the same way when you were 16 years old or when you are 40 years old? No of course not.

“The world hates change. Yet it is the only thing that brought progress.” -Charles F. Kettering.

Some of the most common reactions to and defences against making changes are the following:

* Fear, we want the 100% guarantee that nothing will go wrong!!

* Perfectionism; the thought of failure could destroy their perfect image and /or ability to cope.

* Low Self Image: People who suffer from a low self image will do anything to hold on to. So they can continue to keep on punishing themselves and consequently others.

They want to convince themselves and the world that they are absolutely undeserving of being loved

* Stubbornness: These are the control freaks. They have a fierce sense of independence and will not allow anyone to ‘tell them’ how to live their lives…

It is interesting to realize that they are not in control of their live at all. The opposite is true.

* Learned Victimization: Helplessness is their watchword.They rather keep on given up that risking a potentially more successful approach.

Life Style Coaching is not for every one.

It is designed for those people who are ready to change their behaviours , so they can start to create different outcomes.

Life Style Coaching is a two way street, since you want solutions and when you are being given steps to take, then YOU need to take the responsibility and being accountable.

You will be given steps on HOW TO replace those un-resourceful beliefs and behaviours and replace them with those ones who will create the reality you DO desire.

It is interesting to begin to realize when reality is feeding back to you where you are at. Life is holding a mirror in front of you all the time.

Through an increased conscious awareness, you can choose to let go those beliefs and behaviours which are no longer supportive of where you would like to go.

A good metaphor is, when you step inside your car, and you have a navigator, the navigator will ask you “Where would you like to go?”

And then you punch in the destination and it starts to give you the guidance.

This process would take a lot of stress out of your life. You take the action and follow the steps.

The social thinking is

People are social beings, each living their lives in society and the presence of others. It is not known that a man can live in his own, without even less a human being. Any person, the social as it is, interacts with the people he comes into contact.

The normal process of learning would be for each person to give something, an idea that a practice, an ideology, a philosophy, or the mere absence of the learning experience for the other to start the search for answers to a proper integration into the self.

Throughout the life of a human being, he will be able to share and by which, together with others. The influences subtly change it to a person in what he is during the present is what he coaching for the lives of those he was with.

Coaching for life is quite easy to understand. It is the way an individual personality, an effect with the people in his environment. The closer they are physically, socially and is probably a greater and so the transfer would have a major change in the attitude and behaviour.

Although not necessarily outrageous in the sense that it overshadowed another person, the fundamental problem, it differs and moves a person’s behaviour. It is a two-way process for the people involved and a two-way process on the individual.

The two paired way process

Coaching for life could lead to either positive or negative results to the other individual. The same applies to the same person by the people around him. Depending on what still influential, and a specific way of thinking is the subject of a wide range of possible results in terms of world outlook, attitude and philosophy in life.

Morality is only a complementary role in determining what kind of person derives from the many interactions he can throughout his life.

Like a River run dry, no new rainfall will definitely fill up the dry river bed, but the water would fill that the river bed can be murky because of the accumulated dirt, if they dried. Over time, water from the mountains, filtered and cleaned will begin to replace the muddy water once occupied.

Our characters are similar to the dry river bed. We are always an empty vessel in constant need for social interaction and quality of character education, depends on the people, the “water” that would fill us. Coaching for life is an essential part of the residence of humans, the ability to think, feel, reason and take action with the events that come our way.

It never ends

Even those who have died physically immortalized their philosophies, and of these have been affected deeply. Coaching for life may extend over the grave by the aftermath of these dead people leave that other ideas. A classic example would be the teachings of the faith through Jesus Christ, Mohammed, Buddha, religious and similar facilities on their trailers.

Several hundreds, perhaps thousands of years have already passed, and yet their words and teachings are still kept as a guide for spiritual growth and personal satisfaction.

Coaching for life for these personalities were immortalized on such large scale because of their impact on the people accept their philosophies and beliefs as their own.

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What drives you? What is it that defines your entire persona? What are you living for?

Unfortunately, most people have are way ward of the very purpose they exist. Can you remember those days of your youthful exuberance when you undoubtedly believe you can achieve anything? Filled with unfathomable enthusiasm and driven with a determined resolution.

            Sadly for most those days are long gone, they are the ghost of their former selves. Battered and beaten by the ravages of stress from work, society and life itself. So many haven’t dreamed in for so long that they actually don’t know what they want any longer! Don’t you think it’s time to stir up that dream inside of you? Your dreams and your destiny are not determined by “CHANCE” but by “CHOICE” It is solely your Decision.

             The life you have now is the result in direct correlation to the Choices you’ve made in the past. But, sometimes you are hindered and stuck in mediocrity because you were afraid to make a sound Decision. You are just flowing along the stream that forces of nature roll you along. The kind of cavalier “Que Sera Sera” attitude is not only inexplicable it’s repulsive and inexcusable. Isn’t it time you got involved with your own life? Isn’t it time to start living through your own Decisions and take responsibility for your actions, be it the Choices you make in your life.

             It’s your life, live it the way you see fit. It is a concept so simple yet people indignantly miss it therefore missing out how prolific it really is!

             I believe that you can attain anything in life if you act on it and persevere to achieve it regardless the hindrances looming over. It’s your Decision, it is your Choice!

             Quoting from Lewis Carrol’s Alice in Wonderland… Alice asked the cat, “Would you please tell me, which way I ought to go from here?” The cat answered, “That depends a great deal on where you are heading to.” Alice exclaimed, “Oh, I don’t much care.” “Then it really doesn’t matter which way you go, the cat remarked poignantly.

             What are you trying to accomplish with your life? What do you want to attain? It’s your Choice, you are in direct control. Take responsibility for your actions and refrain from blaming others for your failures! Make a sound judgment for your Decisions, start by getting serious and get going! Life goes on, with or without you!

 Here is an inspiring quote by Eleanor Roosevelt, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Never let anybody steal your dream or vision!

 You need to make a Decision! Don’t go on through life idly staving away when there is boatload of opportunity in front of you. It is much easier to make a course correction that it is to get started! It takes careful planning and solid preparation with corrections on the side. But before they can do that they had to make a Decision to take off first.

 How do you process a Decision?

 It is vitally important to grasps all the concepts. Never make 100% assumptions while only having 10% facts. It is illogical and impractical, you need to consider various solutions and objectively evaluate their consequences. Weighing the best and worst case scenarios, and then make sure that the Decision is congruent with your Goals, Plans and Mission statement. Lastly you must always effectively convey your judgment to your support team.

An ideal support team would be your family members, close friends, relatives who are helping out your cause, refrain from consulting with those who are dragging down.

Remember you are the architect of your life. You must be willing and able to make Choices. Your destiny is determined by Choice not by chance!