What a Life Coach Can Do for you

As the New Year begins people all over the world are committing themselves to all sorts of resolutions to lead better lives. Every year millions of people (friends and family of mine included) commit themselves to such things as: quitting smoking, getting in shape, making more money, and spending more time with our family and friends, which are just a few of the resolutions we hear today. While some of us do join the gym, throw away cigarettes, start saving money, how long does it last? A month? Two months? Three, if we’re lucky? When the excitement of the New Year wears off and the old routine and demands of life set in, the same old patterns come back up and we tell ourselves “well maybe next year”, or “promises were made to be broken”. It doesn’t have to be that way this year. There are many people out there, besides personal trainers, whose job it is to ensure that we continue to reach our goals. They are called Life Coaches.

A life coach is someone who works with you to create the goals and outcomes we want for our life. Some areas they work with clients on are: creating a better balance between our personal and professional lives, improving our ability to communicate our ideas and thoughts in public, and developing strategies for us to earn more money.

After attending a self-development seminar by Tony Robbins late last year, I decided to hire my own life coach. You see, for many years I‘d read numerous books on how to be a better person and leader. I watched DVDs and listened to CDs on spirituality and finding the inner wisdom, so that I could find my true purpose. I will admit that a lot of what I read stuck with me and I was happy to share that knowledge; I just found that I didn’t apply much of it consistently. I don’t think I am alone on this. I believe we all want to have a great life with financial security, time with our family and friends, and a career where we’re making a positive difference that provides us with a level of deep satisfaction.

Yet we never have someone committed to working with us to achieve those goals. While you may have family, friends and colleagues interested in seeing live a better life, they aren’t necessarily going to put their time and energy into helping. Why? Because they are just as focused on their goals and outcomes for their life. I can tell you that I have already seen results in two of three outcomes I have set to achieve over the next three months, and it is empowering. The final outcome will be realized within the next two weeks. When I am finished achieving these outcomes I will work with my coach to push my self into new adventures, opportunities and areas of life that will create more passion and zest for life.

A life coach steps in to provide many levels of support; acts as a sounding board, works to create action-oriented techniques, and provides thought provoking questions. Growing in popularity and use all over the world, in 2004, according to MarketData Enterprise, there were 25,000 life coaches in the U.S, and in 2005 the amount of coaches grew to 40,000. Canada, Japan, the U.K, and Australia are also growing markets for coaching.

Some of the most successful athletes, CEOs, musical artists in the world have their own life coaches. These coaches are not counselors, therapists, mentors, or consultants. Counselors and therapists focus on your past, mentors and consultants give you their opinion and how you should proceed and offer solutions. A personal coach will bring the solution out of you, and that is a very empowering tool for clients. The ability to talk out the process that will create the desired result or the optimal solution to the challenge their facing will propel them forward at an exciting rate.

Many people who hire a personal trainer are often the most successful at losing weight, staying in shape and eating healthy. When the commitment is made to pay a personal trainer, show up at a specific time to train, and complete the amount of work they require you do you get results. Why? Well for one thing you have vested financial interest in the sessions. Secondly, you are now accountable to another person; you told them you would show up at a particular time to train and you don’t want to disappoint them. Finally, as strange as this may seem, the vast majority of us will do more for others than we will do for ourselves. So when the trainer tells you that you’re going to do fifteen sit-ups and as you get to the fifteenth they tell you, “ok now ten more”, and you push yourself. If you were training alone you would have stopped at ten. Make sense? Now is the time to hire a life coach to push you to your “10” in life, and then help create a “15” to reach for.

Getting over the Green Devil through Hypnotherapy for Jealousy

Jealousy is one of the most human of all emotions, and each one of us has experienced it at one time or the other. Jealousy towards your spouse/partner, jealousy towards a sibling, jealousy towards a co-worker, these are but a few examples of this human emotion. While in some cases this jealousy is at a controllable stage, there are yet others when this emotion just takes over the lives of people, and it is then that the warning bells start ringing. Some amount of jealousy is natural to all people, but when it becomes an obsessive trait there is cause to worry, for driven by this Green Devil, we end up hurting the people we love and causing mental torture to both them and us. Once you have identified this emotion as one that has to be dealt with, hypnotherapy for jealousy is one of the most effective routes you could take to control it.

Jealousy, is a result of an over active imagination and an underlying insecurity. As someone rightly said, “an idle mind is a devil’s workshop”. This misguided imagination makes us do some terrible things. You can’t stop thinking about your partner, each and every innocent thing that he says and does, seem to take on epic proportions of infidelity to you. You find yourself imagining scenarios about your partner, and in the process torment yourself. You know that it’s not good for your relationship, but you simply can’t stop. Jealousy can be tragic and devastating to a relationship, it can create bitterness beyond imagination. In some cases it can lead to domination, controlling behavior and even physical violence; and I do not need to wax eloquent on how effective these things are in killing love and relationships. If you realize that it’s time to keep a check on your jealousy, you have already taken the first step towards bettering situations. Hypnotherapy for jealousy will take you a long way from there.

As I said, jealousy is often caused by our insecurities; hypnotherapy for jealousy takes stock of the past and present events in your life and identifies the core issue, which might be the catalyst to such behavior. Once the trigger is identified, hypnotherapy for jealousy helps you get over the negative emotions, through the power of positive thinking and auto-suggestions. Insecurity is effectively dealt with by changing your self-image and perception. Your self esteem is boosted by auto suggestions, and this reflects in your outward behavior. Your fertile imagination is weeded out thoroughly for unwanted scenes and undesirable stimuli, to give it a more healthy and positive outlook.

Hypnotherapy for jealousy works faster than you can imagine. Your partner will be astounded to see the new you, and it is needless to say that it will bring about a dramatic positive change in your relationship. Gone are the ugly scenes and the nagging suspicion, both you and your partner will benefit from these changes. If you stop imagining things, and learn to trust your partner, you will stop torturing yourself mentally. On the other hand, with this renewed trust your partner will feel less threatened and controlled, and will subconsciously react in a positive way towards you. Remember that though you feel your overwhelming love for your partner justifies your desire to control his/her actions, you know deep down it is not the done thing. Add to that the fact that chewing your nails while imagining worst possible scenes involving your mate, and an imaginary “Other” will bring you no good. So its time you got yourself a manicure for your hands, and hypnotherapy for your soul.

How to End All The Stress

We cannot help it but fall into our daily routines. Working, studying, running the errands, groceries, kids, deadlines, projects, budgeting–the list can go on and on. It is a paradox that the things that make our lives essentially easier are the same things that bind us to our routines. Technology evolved and is continually improving in leaps and bounds, yet we all feel stressed. The amenities that we now enjoyed are not enjoyed by the previous generation. Yet backaches, brain aneurism, carpal tunnel syndrome, migraines, sleeplessness, etc. are showing us that we are more stressed than ever before. The stress of living in a post-modern world also invented post-modern approaches to stress. The thing is, even our hobbies and interests are very stressful and demanding activities. The stressful life in the post-modern also had post-modern solutions, which are either ineffective or superficial.

There are different types of stress. One of the reasons why people have a hard time ending stress is that they are not addressing the core issues within their lives. Here are a handful of stress categories. Remember that in finding a solution to a problem, you must first know the issue and the cause of the problem. Find out which of these stress categories are causing your life to be a living hell:

1. Work/Study-Related Stress.

The workplace and the school are very stressful environments. Deadlines are one major cause of Work/Study Related Stress. There are a couple of other factors that might contribute to this type of stress. One is conflict with your boss/co-workers and/or teachers, another is changes that are happening abruptly, where you could not cope up with them. Threats to job security, or a fears of having a failing mark could also contribute to stress.

2. Relationship/Family Related Stress.

Family related stress includes divorce/separation issues, extra-marital affairs, child-rearing, teenage break ups and unwanted pregnancies among others. This is a major stressor for most people and oftentimes, stress coming from this area can have a major impact in other areas.

3. Environment Related Stress.

Environment related stress is stress where the normal daily routines of a person is bombarded by disturbances and changes that the person cannot cope with. Disturbances include noise from the surroundings (i.e. jackhammer in a nearby construction site, etc.), and weather disturbances among others. Changes in the environment such as moving to a new state, having a new job or having a completely different lifestyle are stressors too.

4. Psychological Stress.

Psychological stress is an indicator that there are other stressors in the life of a person. Psychological stress can include fears of an individual which can either be real or phobias which are not grounded on reality. Sleeplessness, anxieties and worries are sometimes caused by unrealistic fears which have no basis. The subconscious of a person and/or his/her belief systems, cultural background and social milieu can all contribute to a socio-psychological stress complex.

5. Financial Stress.

Feelings of helplessness in financial terms is one big cause of stress, and because the economic well-being of an individual is connected to other areas of his/her life, a financial problem can also have spillover effects in areas such as relationship. The individuals suffering from this problem are often individuals who have a real need for basic needs or individuals who cannot distinguish their needs from their wants.

6. Health Related Stress.

As the saying goes, the health of a person is the wellspring of his life. Health related stress range from sleeplessness due to an extreme caffeine consumption to drug abuse. Ailments are also sources of stress. Some of the most common ailments that are major stressors are heart and lung related problems and brain illnesses.

These categories are not archetypes. Mostly, one stressor can lead to other forms of stress. The categories can mix and match to create more stress and pressures can creep in from one area of your life to another. Above all this, the degree of stress can be mild to extreme. A suffering from stress in one area could not possibly isolate this area from infecting and inflicting damage to other areas of his/her life.

How do we end all stress? There are literally thousands of anti-stress and stress management websites. The ancient and natural ways are still the best ways towards peace and serenity. Here are some tips on how to end all stress:

1. Have a healthy lifestyle.

Health is wealth. I cannot stress it more bluntly. The only happiness that we can ever enjoy in this world is life, and having a great life starts with being healthy. Sometimes, people are ill equipped to face the stressors in their lives because their bodies cannot handle activities involving pain, endurance and strength. Exercise. Eat right.

2. Have sex regularly.

Sex is proven to be a very effective anti-stress activity. The amount of sex needed by an individual depends from one individual to another. Endorphins are released when we have sex. These chemicals make us happy and contented. Tensions at home are also lessened when couples continually enjoy each other.

3. Communicate.

People who do not say NO are always stressed-out people.
Admit mistakes and weaknesses. A simple misunderstanding between you and your boss or your teacher can really make or break you. Oftentimes, it is the small things that are neglected.

4. Prioritize.

Have a battle plan. Organize your life. I know that this seems hard for most people. I am the worst procrastinator there is. This article was given one month before the deadline, only to be written the night before the deadline. In financial matters, always weigh between needs and wants. According to Da Vinci, Simplicity is still the ultimate sophistication. Living a simple life that is free from lots of complexities.

5. Enjoy life and stop to smell the flowers.

We get easily entangled with the daily concerns that we have. Our society is trained towards self-destruction. We work all day; we even put up additional hours on the job just to get rich quickly or make ends meet. A lot of people forget to enjoy life. Always remember that happy thoughts, and moments, make us fly. It is good if you will learn to reward yourself from time to time.

6. Acceptance of the truth.

This is one of the major reasons why thousands of Alcoholics Anonymous members are very successful with their program. They work on the prayer: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference. There are things which we cannot change, and there are things that have to be addressed even though going through them could be painful. Are your problems based on real issues? What things can be changed? What are the things that cannot be changed? Do you need to take it easy on yourself?

Stress is an over-all phenomenon that is a pitfall for many people. In the same way, well-being should not only be limited to your finances or your health. The only real way to combat stress is to be a well rounded person. Live a balanced and a healthy life!

Hypnotherapy for Relationships – Improving the Quality of life

Human beings are social creatures; in our day to day lives we are constantly meeting and interacting with people, and creating relationships with them. Fathers, mother, sibling, friend, lover, co-worker, subordinate – These are just a few examples of relationships which are common to people across the globe. While some of us are really good with maintaining these relationships, others are want for improvement. It is a fact that not all our relationships can be called successful, some might be disconcerting and dissatisfying while yet others could be downright disastrous. We all realize at some point in time that we need to review our own attitudes towards our relationships; while we might start out with noble intentions of bringing about positive change, we might not always succeed. An external intervention, something which can guide you through the trials and tribulations of a relationship can help a great deal. Hypnotherapy for relationships is one such intervention, and it has proven to be really effective time and time again.

Relationships are what our lives are made of, and happy relationships make for a happy and satisfied life. But this satisfaction eludes us frequently when we fail to carry through a relationship. Possessiveness, insecurity, communication barriers, ego hassles, overdependence, and infidelity are some of the problems which can arise in the relationships we share with other people. How could hypnotherapy for relationships help you address these issues? It all starts with a simple thought. By realizing that there is room for improvement in your relationship, you have already taken the first step towards making it better. Hypnotherapy for relationships basically targets the way you think, and your perception of other people. It works towards redesigning your attitude, because it is your attitude towards people that makes the most amount of difference.

Once you have started work on your subconscious mind, through the route of hypnotherapy for relationships, you will find yourself to become calmer and relaxed. Hypnotherapy teaches you to be more stable in your responses, as it smoothens out the rough edges from your reactions. Let’s say that you chose hypnotherapy for relationships to deal with the problem of insecurity in your relationship; through auto suggestions to your subconscious mind, hypnotherapy will work towards increasing your confidence and changing your self image. It will also work upon your phobias and fear, and replace it with positive thinking. Once you start experiencing a change in yourself, you will notice that your partner/companion is also reacting to you in a more positive fashion. This is because you have altered your perspective, and now have the ability to empathize with the other person; it also means that hypnotherapy has helped you in becoming more relaxed. Your partner can sense this, and subconsciously will react to this change in a favorable manner.

Hypnotherapy for relationships can help you communicate better, and effective communication is the key to any successful relationship, isn’t it?

Why adopt Hypnotherapy for Sexual Issues?

Sex is an issue which is one of the most private and intimate things that a person could be concerned with. Most of us are hesitant and shy about talking to people about issues related to sex; and yet when directly faced with an issue related to sex, the reactions can be pretty baffling. From declining self esteem to absolute disbelief, a person suffering from sexual issues can go through a gamut of emotions. However, to understand the condition properly it is advisable to seek help; there are a number of counselors and therapists like me who would like to work with you to do away with your problems. However, I am a hypnotherapist and I use hypnotherapy for sexual issues to combat the problems which my clients face.

Seems unbelievable to you doesn’t it, that a therapist can use hypnotherapy for sexual issues? You wonder how it would work; there are a million doubts in your head while you consider the proposition of approaching a hypnotherapist for solutions to your sexual problems. Actually hypnotherapy for sexual issues is not all that bizarre; it is one of the safest methods you could adopt to address your problem. Hypnotherapy has been successfully implemented in cases related to a wide variety of sexual issues, including performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction, orgasmic dysfunction, low sex drive and frigidity amongst other problems.

What a hypnotherapist does, when you go to him to treat the sexual issues is, that he uncovers the hidden meaning behind your sexual problem. You need to first establish whether the problem you have is a physical one or a psychological one. Yes, you heard me right. Sexual issues more often than not are all related to the subconscious and are psychological in nature; triggered by some stray incident or happening. While undergoing hypnotherapy for sexual issues, you are made to introspect; you have to ask questions related to when, how and why the problems started; how did you feel when it happened and what steps you are willing to take. Sometimes sexual issues are related to anxiety and commitment phobia, apart from low confidence and self image. Hypnotherapy can help you overcome these problems.

If your problems are related to long harbored beliefs, low self image, anxiety, low confidence hypnotherapy for sexual issues can help you a great deal; it will make you identify the root cause and work towards removing it. Through hypnotherapy you can train your subconscious to let go of the negative emotions, it will also teach you to make peace with the unpleasant event in your life and see it as a catalyst for wizening up. Through auto suggestions and positive reinforcements, you work upon improving your self image and self worth; this in turn will help you realize what you truly deserve.

Hypnotherapy is all about relaxation and gaining confidence, and a bit of both in the bedroom, could be just the shot in the arm that you require to spice your life up!