Not all hypnotherapy is the same

An excellent technique delivers far better results

Many people assume hypnotherapy is a uniform treatment. However, different hypnotherapists use different techniques and some techniques are better than others.

Hypnotherapists often hear people saying ‘I’ve tried hypnotherapy before. It didn’t work.’  However, what people often don’t realise is that just because hypnotherapy didn’t work for them with a specific therapist, it doesn’t mean that hypnotherapy doesn’t work.  It’s similar to saying “I went to school but didn’t pass any exams, and therefore school doesn’t work”. It clearly depends on many factors, including the quality of the teaching at the school and your commitment to learning.

The skill of the therapist and, more importantly, the specific techniques they are trained in affect success rates. A good hypnotherapist with an excellent technique will deliver far better results than those using more basic methods.

Some hypnotherapy approaches and techniques are better than others

Finding out which are best is not easy because every hypnotherapist believes their approach is best. This can be difficult because many hypnotherapists assume their client is cured, without checking a few months after the hypnotherapy.

The trouble with many of the quick fix cures, such as the fast phobia cure, is that they are just that. They can appear to work after one session, but often that change is short term or doesn’t work at all, and that, of course, is not a solution.

In addition, some hypnotherapists weaken their therapy with other therapies such as CBT (behavioural therapy) and NLP (neuro linguistic programming). This is similar to using two or three different recipes for a cake at the same time – it might taste good, but it might not and you won’t know until it’s come out of the oven. Specialist advanced hypnotherapy is like following the best and tastiest, tried and tested recipe. You leave nothing to chance, knowing that it will taste good each and every time you make it.

Clients want permanent changes and solutions to their problem. To get a higher long term success rate, hypnotherapy with specialise is required.

Suggestion hypnosis

Suggestion based hypnotherapy is the most commonly available on the market. ’Suggestions’ or ideas around new attitudes and behaviours are given during hypnosis. For uncomplicated problems, the treatment can work well. However, the downside with suggestion hypnotherapy is that it can appear to work after a session, but because it doesn’t address the real cause of the issue, it can manifest in other ways or return later.

Research has shown that suggestion only works for around a third of issues.

One of the largest scientific studies on hypnotherapy success was reported in the New Scientist in October 1992¹. Comparing success rates for stop smoking therapies, 72,000 people across 600 studies were evaluated, and hypnosis was proven to be the most successful stop smoking treatment on the market. Even the most basic suggestion hypnotherapy tapes worked far more effectively than any other treatment, including willpower, nicotine patches and counselling. At worst, suggestion hypnosis was shown, to have a 30 per cent success rate, but it could double to 60 per cent with a good, trusted therapist and good suggestion.

These success rates significantly outperform any other treatment for stop smoking on the marketing, including nicotine patches and Champix/Chantix. However, more specialist advanced techniques have been shown to be even more successful.


Hypno-analysis, also known as ‘free association’, is another technique which currently appears to be very popular. This approach can delve deeper into the inner mind and involves asking the subconscious mind to bring forward information relating to the problem.

However, problems can arise with as this undirected approach. This is because it can also bring up more issues in addition to the one the client came in with. Not only can this leave the client more problems than the original one, it can establish an unhealthy dependence on the therapist.

Advanced hypnotherapy can a be permanent solution

When used properly, advanced hypnotherapy, can be permanent solution because it takes a holistic approach to addressing the problem. An advanced hypnotherapist will have undertaken specialist training and is rare. The advanced hypnotherapist is skilled at gaining direct access to the subconscious mind and finding the root of the problem. The problem can be addressed once the source of it has been found.

Just like an expert computer hacker, the advanced hypnotherapy specialist eliminates the ‘mind viruses’ causing the issues. When the ‘mind viruses’ are deleted and the attitudes and behaviour pattern reprogrammed, the problem can be fixed.

Hypnotherapy’s success has been proven in thousands of academic research studies. One notable study was by Von Dedenroth (1968), who found 94 per cent of over 1,000 smokers that stopped smoking with hypnotherapy reported being non-smokers at least 18 months later².

Advanced hypnotherapy that includes age regression can work within just 3-7 sessions, compared with suggestion or hypno-analysis that can take up to 20 sessions and still not be fixed. Advanced structured hypnotherapy involves following set of specific protocols that address the problem from all sides. The approach works with a client’s unique mind programmes. It works with the parts of the mind keeping the problem in place and age regression to bring forward information to help understand, solve and deal with the problem. Once the source of the problem has been dealt with, suggestion is used to lay down the foundations of a new set of behaviours and attitudes.

Age regression is essential to ensuring that the root of the problem is reached and fixed permanently. Advanced hypnotherapy is a specialist skill, but one that delivers long term results for most people, most of the time.


¹New Scientist (Robert Matthews, Issue 1845, October 1992). Collected from statistics from more than 600 studies, covering almost 72,000 people in America, Scandinavia and elsewhere in Europe and including 48 studies of hypnosis covering 6000 smokers

²Von Dedenroth, T. (1968) American Journal of Clinical Hypnosis

Hypnotherapy Review- A case for hypnotherapy for health

Hypnotherapy, Hypnosis and Conversation Hypnosis are all examples of trance sessions. To achieve the results you and your clients aiming to reach, these trance sessions will should and will take on whatever form necessary.

A basic structure for hypnotherapy is the best guide you can have, giving a simple guideline on hypnosis and hypnotherapy. As a basic rule, you should let things happen in a natural way if things vary a bit but still produce the trance and result which you have set out to obtain.

This basic structure for hypnotherapy is all based on eight concepts which you will read about as we continue.  The eight concepts are therapeutic preparation, interviews, identify work, induce trance, change work patterns, test and future pacing, ending trance and setting tasks and dismissal.


Hypnotherapy Step # 1 – Therapeutic preparation

The first thing the hypnotist is required to do is prepare himself for the sessions and work to be done. It includes a variety of tasks he needs to practice, keep fresh and prepare for in, before and after each of the therapeutic sessions.


Hypnotherapy Step# 2 – Interviews

Interviewing your clients is the second step in the basic structure which you need to do. First you build rapport, comfort, and trust with your clients by meeting and greeting them. This meeting gives you a chance to converse out of trance and will initiate a general relationship built on warmth and ccmfort, inspiring confidence your ability to help one another. Thereafter, you will conduct a formal type of interview with your clients with an objective of gathering information, outline the problem, assess the resources you have to help and challenge the patterns that are causing limits in resolving the problem.


Hypnotherapy Step # 3 – Identify the work

This step comes after the process of interviewing the clients above. It involves identifying the areas in which you will be doing your work.

You will use the information that you were given in the interview process to identify the areas in which you can provide assistance with given the amount of time you have to work within.  Part of this will be to make a judgment on what you believe your client can accomplish and work though in the given period of time you have.


Hypnotherapy Step # 4 – Induce Trance

In step four you will start with trance inductions.  This is where your hypnotherapy or hypnosis will take place; you can do this either informally or formally. 


Hypnotherapy Step # 5 – Changing Work Patterns

Step five is to involve change work patterns; these are methods such as changing frames, stories and other interventions.  These are only a few options you have.  You should constantly keep your mind open to new developments in this area as well as find the change work patterns that will work for you; these may be from other people or invented yourself. 


Hypnotherapy Step # 6 – Test and future pacing

Step six in basic structure is to test and future pace.  First testing is always going to be an important part of your hypnosis structure.  It is important to test the progress you are making so you know what is working and what has potential of failure or falling apart.  If your therapy is going to fall apart you will be better off discover this while in session than to realize it happened when you were not around to patch things up.  Test thoroughly and often so you are aware of where you stand with your clients.

Future pacing is a rehearsal of future situations that the client’s problem would have appeared in, in the past.  In this you will want the situation to naturally trigger the solutions you are helping your client to find.  The language you use here will also help your client to move toward change.


Hypnotherapy Step # 7 – Ending trance

Now that you have worked your way through the first six steps in the basic structure of hypnotherapy you are ready to move on to step seven which is to end the trance.  As you start to end your trance keep in mind that this is the most suggestible part of trance and you should use it to that advantage.  Make positive suggestions and self esteem building tools here as you bring your client out of trance. 

After you end the trance you will also want to avoid suggesting any problems occurred as well as distract their attention with a random set of comments.  This will likely cause some amnesia to set in to they will only remember the end conversation of your session.


Hypnotherapy Step # 8 – Dismissing the client

The final step in this structure is to task and dismiss the client.  The objective here is to assign tasks to the client that will aid in the processes you have used in the hypnosis.  After that your session is ended and the person is dismissed, only do this once you are sure the trance has been broken for reasons of safety and proper function in the world outside of your office.  And that is your simple basic structure for hypnotherapy.

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Stress and Anxiety – Use Hypnotherapy to Overcome Them and Find Peace

Now more than ever, scientific surveys are attesting the primary role played by stress in triggering or aggravating different physical and emotional afflictions. In the June 6, 1983 issue of Time Magazine, the cover story labeled stress “The Epidemic of the Eighties.” It also said that stress is our leading health problem. Indeed one has to recognize that our world has become a lot more complicated and stressful in the last two decades since that article was written.

Numerous surveys indicate that almost everybody is under the impression of being subject to a lot of stress. Authorities in the field estimate that between 75 and 90 percent of all visits to primary care physicians somehow have to do with stress.

Most people report their stress is primarily due to their job. And stress levels have also grown in children and the elderly population because of several reasons including: Peer pressures that often push people to everything from smoking to alcoholism and drug abuse; the wearing away of religion and family values; increased crime rates; threats to personal safety; and last but not least social isolation and loneliness.

Stress can cause and aggravate conditions such as diabetes, ulcers, low back and neck pain, high blood pressure, strokes and heart attacks. This is due to the ever growing sympathetic nervous system activity along with a high level of cortisol, adrenaline, and other hormones. Chronic stress is often associated with lower immune system resistance. Stress can contribute to anxiety, depression, and its various effects on the body’s organs.

The following definition for “stress” can be found in the American Heritage Dictionary:

“To subject to physical or mental pressure, tension, or strain”

The following is the definition of “tension” from the same dictionary:

“Mental, emotional, or nervous strain”

The following definition is given for “anxiety”:

“A state of uneasiness and apprehension, as about future uncertainties”

And the following is the definition of “depression”:

“The condition of feeling sad or despondent”

The following is the definition of “clinical depression”:

“A psychiatric disorder characterized by an inability to concentrate, insomnia, loss of appetite, anhedonia, feelings of extreme sadness, guilt, helplessness and hopelessness, and thoughts of death.”

One thing is for sure, our mind is the first source of our feelings of stress, anxiety and depression. Put differently, what we think about, and our attitudes and points of view about our experiences create our feelings. That way, if we can learn how to change our thoughts, attitudes, and points of view, we can get rid of our feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression and change them for a more positive state of being.

Since the beginning of time, people have tried to find methods that would allow them to eliminate stress. With the pharmaceutical industry there seems to be a drug for everything. And to that end the industry has created a large line of sedatives from Valium to Xanax. If you choose to utilize drugs for relief, please be sure to pay attention to the fine print and learn about the side effects, which commonly include addiction and dependency. Unfortunately, these types of drugs aim at treating the symptoms, but not the cause. So as soon as one stops ingesting them, the symptoms can come back.

A finer method to get rid of tension, stress, anxiety, and depression is to work on the root cause, which as I said previously, is generally our thought processes. There is the good news. Hypnosis is all about relaxation. The AMA accepted hypnosis in 1958 as an effective way to cure stress or stress related symptoms. Moreover unlike anxiolytics, there are totally no negative side effects.

When you are in hypnosis, you are in the Alpha level of consciousness. It’s the daydream like temporary psychological state that we experience as we’re just about to fall asleep at night. And we experience it once again when we awaken again. There are several different ways that will help us guide ourselves into this state of tranquility, from progressive relaxation to visual imagery to listening to hypnosis CD’s.

Once we access a hypnotic state, we can communicate with our unconscious mind, which is the seat of our feelings. And it becomes easier to acknowledge new points of view and ideas that will help us to dissipate anxiety, or even avoid it completely.

NLP, which is a recent sort of hypnotherapy, offers numerous excellent methods for getting rid of stress. Perhaps the technique that works best is called the “swish” pattern – or the “flash” pattern. When you use this method, your unconscious will automatically use negative, stress producing mental images, as triggers for tranquilizing mental images. Otherwise stated, your stressors will automatically cause relaxation!


Tension, stress, anxiety, and depression can be caused by our thoughts. So by changing our attitude and the way we feel about our situation and what we’ve experienced, we can dissipate these feelings at the source. Hypnosis and NLP are natural tools that we can use to help us change our attitude and point of view to swiftly dissipate the root cause of our negative feelings.

Motivational Courses Using Hypnotherapy NLP And Life Coaching Part 2/3

Now all of those are great reasons to go to the gym, but did they get you there? No. If the pleasure of going was a good enough reason, you would have done it already! So your commitment to this motivation you want, will be tested by using pain. During the motivational courses I have provided in St Albans, I have found that people are put off by this relatively simple concept which is really just about getting leverage. Leverage is a bit of an American term, but it gives us an idea of how we can apply movement to something that seems to be stuck- and remember that in order to be motivated, you must be moving.
If you think of a great big boulder made of stone that you wanted to move, you could try pulling and pushing it and getting exhausted, but it probably wouldn’t budge easily. However, if you use a lever, you can apply half the amount of pressure, use half the energy and the boulder will move. Our pain reasons (negative/ stick) are going to work like a lever, so here is a list of those applied to the example of going to the gym:
1) There is a history of diabetes in my family. If I do not go to the gym I will be unfit and more likely to be ill like my father is.
2) I am currently single. If my body doesn’t get fit there is a strong possibility I will stay that way. Then I will never have children.
3) If I do not exercise my heart, I will be more likely to have a heart attack.
4) If I get sick, which is more likely when I am unfit, it will take me longer to recover because my body will struggle. I will be aging faster than my peers who will be enjoying their lives.
Just take a look at the two lists of reasons. One is fluffy and one hits you in the gut. One list moves you, it takes you by surprise. Only one of those lists physically creates a shifting internal feeling when you read it. Now imagine that they were your reasons, applied to your motivational problem. Which list is going to get you doing something, pain of getting away from what you don’t want, or the pleasure of moving towards what you do want?
In my private practice, I offer 3 different alternatives to help with motivation. This has been beneficial to the St Albans Motivation Courses, because it means that everybody is three times more likely to find a motivation solution that works for them.
I start by providing a free consultation which takes about 40 minutes. There is no obligation to attend motivational sessions after you have attended the consultation, you can just come along to find out a bit more information about how I work, and I can find out more information about your particular problem.
Now read Motivational Courses using Hypnotherapy, NLP and Life Coaching 3/3

The Use of Biofeedback Devices in Hypnotherapy and Psychotherapy

Biofeedback devices measure a range of physiological variables including brain waves (Electroencephalography), muscle tension (Electromyography) and the electrical conductivity of the skin (galvanic skin response). All of these variables indicate continuums of emotional arousal. It is precisely these measurements that are used in lie-detector machines as they pick up the most subtle of physiological changes – many outside of conscious awareness. Many biofeedback devices exist and create a feedback loop for the user. Having the ability to see these readings, the user can learn to gain control over these physiological measurements by relaxing and seeing (or hearing) measurements rise and fall in response to meditation, self-hypnosis or breathing techniques.
In my private hypnotherapy, psychotherapy and NLP practice, I sometimes elect to use a Galvanic Skin Response (GSR) meter with clients. Galvanic Skin Response (also called electro-dermal response) is a measure of the electrical conductivity of the skin. If I am using a GSR meter within a session, I first connect my clients to device by placing electrodes on two fingers on the same hand. After several minutes, I take an initial baseline reading. During the session, the meter readings will rise and fall in line with the emotional arousal of the client. In essence, the greater the presence of water and salt on the skin, the more conductive of electricity the skin is. Changes in sweat production in the fingertips can occur for a number of physiological reasons; however, there is a correlation between electrical conductivity of the skin and emotional arousal. A higher GSR reading tends to reflect an increase in emotional arousal (whether that emotion be anger, stress, anxiety, and startle response).
Whilst therapists develop great sensory acuity though many client hours experience, the GSR meter provides another tool to provide a clue that something is happening for the client. It is of particular use in hypnoanalysis or regression when the client has accessed an emotional memory and is experiencing it vividly. Whilst abreactions are easily spotted by a therapist, the GSR meter provides an early sign of emotional arousal that may assist the exploration of the traumatic material. The GSR reading can also be useful for testing the change in the client’s emotional arousal regarding phobias before and after the change work has been completed. The client’s responsiveness to hypnotic induction is clearly demonstrated by a falling reading on the GSR meter. The device can, therefore, be used to indicate when the client is deep enough into trance to make suggestions more direct. I recently conducted a hypnotherapy session and during a section about learning new skills, I mentioned being back at school to access and utilise that regressed learning state that children possess (this is a popular approach popularised by the late renowned hypnotherapist Milton Erickson). The meter rose rapidly at this moment although there were no visible changes to skin tone, breathing rate etc. At the end of the session, my client explained that she had enjoyed the experience but mention of the school had reminded her of a time when she had been bullied. Whilst not a significant event, it was nevertheless a demonstration of the usefulness of GSR meters within a therapeutic setting.
Biofeedback devices will never replace the skill of a therapist nor the importance of watching and listening but they can be a useful adjunct to the therapists toolkit in certain situations.

Hypnotherapy For Childbirth

Hypnosis for child birth is used as a technique as much throughout the pregnancy as it is used during the labour itself. The benefits include a sense of calm and relaxation- and of course the calmer mum can be, the calmer the baby will be during the normally quite stressful experience of being born. This can later influence the ease at which they feed and sleep as a result of a less traumatic birthing experience.
During the pregnancy, hypnotherapy in Hemel Hempstead can be used as a means of mentally preparing the mother for the forthcoming events, offering her suggestions of a calm pain-free experience to come, and a reassurance that she will be able to manage her own levels of pain. The hypnotic experience aided by a hypnotherapist or a hypnotic recording, can help to maintain blood pressure at a safe level during the gestation periods and induce positive beliefs and feelings about the imminent experience as well as offering positive suggestions for things like diet and lifestyle throughout the pregnancy.
During the labour, the trance experience may be used, though not in a deep sleep kind of a way. Instead, the mother will be able to experience the event fully and fell in control during the process. The pain control method reduces the need for medication throughout the experience and ensure that any physical “healing” needs to take place after the labour happens quickly.
In short, anxiety creates tension which can create more pain. Hypnotherapy in Hertfordshire is able to break this cycle with the injection of relation and positive thoughts and attitude. It is well documented that childbirth is a very different experience in other cultures because the expectation of pain does not exist. If you are interested in how hypnotherapy can be helpful for you, please contact our hypnotherapist in Hertfordshire.

Get Rid of your Allergies and Migraine Headaches With Hypnotherapy

25 years ago I suffered from Migraine Headaches to the point that I would pass out from the headache pain.

At the same time I was seeing an allergist 3 times a week for allergies to grass, dust mites, mold, roses, 13 different plants and trees and 20 other items. I was a mess.

I tried various medications and treatments. None of these helped me. What helped me was Hypnotherapy. It completely eliminated all my headaches and allergies and for over 20 years, now, and I haven’t had even a hint of any problems, since. No drugs or medicine, either.

Americans, today, are suffering from a serious pandemic of diseases associated with dysfunction of the immune system. These include asthma, food and pollen allergies, mold, dust and chemical allergies, chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia, psoriasis, eczema, and a host of other conditions. Read the list again of these conditions. Notice that all of them are growing rapidly in western civilization. Is there anyone among you who has not suffered from one or more of these conditions?

While Doctors have understood for years that chronic stress in our lives can trigger a wide variety of immune system disorders they don’t always explain to their patients what processes cause the normal stresses of daily life to turn into disease. Nor do they show us how we can deal more effectively with the stresses in our lives to eliminate these processes and the symptoms that result from them.

Hypnotherapy has the answers. Hypnosis is, first and foremost, a state of deep relaxation and peace and thus a premier remedy for stress.

Hypnotherapists know that even the most ordinary stresses can become overwhelming if the subconscious mind clouds these experiences and tasks with negative significance based upon childhood or other traumas.

While many of my clients express skepticism at first about the possibility of accomplishing something so farfetched, one session is all they need to feel the enormous power of the work in their own bodies, in their own beliefs…and in their lives.

If you suffer from Allergies or Migraines, consider eliminating them with Hypnotherapy, as I did.

Hypnotherapy for Abusive Relationships



 Dr. Trudie Bartholomew, Ph.D
CMA, B.Msc, M.Msc, Msc.D, C.Ht, D.D. (USA),D.Emed,D.EMed (Psych)
Doctor of Metaphysical Science (USA)
Doctor of Divinity : Pastoral Counselling Psychology (USA)
Certified Hypnotherapiist  (IMDHA – USA)

Ethnomedicine Practitioner
Ethnomedicine Practitioner (Psych)

Traditional Herbal Practitioner
Member of the Pastoral Psychology Institute (USA)

Committee Member -Accreditation Committee of EPASA – Ethnomedicine Practitioners Association of S.A.
President of the Free Templer Ministry (FTM)
Vice-President of the International Medical & Dental Hypnotherapy Association: South Africa Chapter



We may ask ourselves why some people are in abusive relationships, while others never seem to be abused, and can set their boundaries and seemingly be respected and appreciated by their spouse, employer, children and others?

When a person visits my consulting and their main problem is anxiety/depression caused by abusive relationships, I know that there was a problem at the time of the fetus in the mother’s womb. Usually I find that the father had an affair with another woman while the mother was pregnant with the child, now as an adult, suffering the result of the pregnant mother’s abuse.


While under Hypnosis, specifically in the Somnambulistic state, we take the patient back to childhood (age regression), and particularly to a period where the mother was approximately six months pregnant. If the patient is visual, they can not only see what the fingers, toes, etc look like inside the womb, but also what is happening outside. They can tell us what the mother is wearing, who are with her; describe the surroundings, emotions and circumstances. The fascinating part is that we can ask God/the Inner Wisdom/Subconscious Mind/Soul to show us a time (but only if it is the Honest Truth!), when the father was with another woman while the mother was pregnant. I would like to caution practitioners not to give the patient ideas or leading questions, but simply ask them to tell you what is happening.

It is important to understand that not all patients/clients are visual. Some are Auditory (taking information in by listening), Kinaesthetic (more the ‘feeling’ type of person, while others are Digital (or Auditory-Digital), the ones who have a lot of inner-talking, analyzing everything. They will of course not ‘see’ things, but may ‘feel’ or simply ‘know’.


Why does the father’s infidelity cause the pattern of abuse for the fetus in later life? The fetus sees or knows about the affair with the other woman, but can of course not tell the mother. The event is so emotional and traumatic, that it creates the ISE (Initial Sensitizing Event), which is usually not recallable by the conscious mind. Because the subconscious mind is the ‘goal achiever’, it will make sure that this goal is achieved, the goal being ‘Abuse’.


How is it possible that the fetus can see or know what the father did, as it is physically inside the mother’s womb?. We are a soul living in a physical body, but we also have other spiritual bodies, which are very much identical to the physical body, but made of a much lighter type of atom. Most human beings can use the Astral Body and the lower Mental Body, while some have the Higher Mental Body developed. Very few people have Spiritual Bodies finer and higher than the Higher Mental Body developed.

Thus part of the consciousness of the fetus can travel in the Astral or Mental body (the same thing sometimes happens when we dream), and observe what is going on outside the womb. All impressions and perceptions during the foetal stages are formed from events occurring in the direct environment around it.


During a typical consultation the patient will discuss his/her abusive relationships and the consequences on his/her emotions and physical health with me. During age regression, the client will usually have an abreaction (an outburst of emotion), and go directly to the latest event of physical/emotional/mental abuse. Although we have empathy, and let them experience this for a while, we do not do any therapy or counselling at this stage, as we know that this is not the ISE (initial event causing the problem). They may go further back in time where a similar emotion was experienced (usually related to abuse), until we reach the event which caused the abuse, usually in the womb, or infant stage.

It is not only women who are abused. Many men are abused by women, and continually choose the same type of person, until the cause of abuse is found and corrected. It must be emphasized that it does not simply help to take the person back in time and read a script or give suggestions. This is ‘band-aid’ hypnosis, and will not have a lasting effect.  They have to re-live the experience (sometimes 2-3 times during the same session), until it has no more emotional impact.


There is another fascinating part of age-regression which I discovered many years ago, and have been using very effectively for a long time. It is possible to take the client back in time, often with the suggestion of ‘lifting you on a cloud’, to go and see what happened in the abuser’s life (in this case the father – or even the mother of the fetus), that caused him to react in a certain way. We usually find that the father/mother went through a similar event as a fetus, infant or younger child. You may let the client ‘feel’ the parent’s emotion experienced during his childhood trauma. This is usually sufficient to allow the client to forgive the parent.


We usually take the person further back in time to the first time that he/she saw the parents long before conception while still in spirit form, and ask questions like ‘why did you choose to be their child?’, etc.


We then take them back to the time when the ‘contract’ was made with their parents for this life. The patient/client and parents (sometimes only one of the parents), often the grandparents and a spiritual figure, seen as Jesus, an Angel or a light are present during this written or verbal agreement. The person is usually permitted to see and understand why he chose to be their child, and what the lessons were to be learned, or things to overcome. Although not always permitted, we can understand our ‘purpose’ for this life, unless we are not ready for this knowledge.


Another reason why a person can be in abusive relationships, will be when the parents were physically/mentally abusive during the foetal or infant years. This creates a certain perception and programming, and once again the goal of the subconscious mind is abuse. So, do not assume that everybody who is in abusive relationships had parents who had affairs! There could also be a past-life event causing the problem.


It is most important to remember that you cannot let the patient leave your consulting room with this new knowledge without helping him to understand why it happened, facilitating the process until he can truly forgive all parties involved.


Once this is achieved, we will take the patient forward in childhood and adulthood, to go through abusive events, but now the impact of the past events are not nearly as emotional as experienced before eliminating the initial sensitizing event. These events are called SSE’s (Subsequent Sensitizing Events), and should no longer occur once the ISE (cause) is properly treated.


It is important to change the perception implanted in the mind of the fetus; we could call this re-programming, as the mind will always use the latest information first. Should you try and do re-programming and positive suggestions without eliminating the cause, it will only have a temporary effect, and soon the patient will fall back into old patterns.

The time spent to find the cause of the problem, re-living the experience, facilitating the forgiveness process, bringing a deeper understanding of the spiritual lessons involved, effect the necessary re-programming, assisting the client to channel the energy in more effective ways, is worth it! Never rush the session or stop in the middle of it.



There is a lot of help in the unseen world of love, truth and light. I often send up a prayer when I don’t know what to do next, and believe me, it does happen to everyone, even if we have been practicing for many years! God never fails us, and the prayer and request is usually answered, just by knowing where to take the patient next!




We may call it intuition?




Copyright © Dr. Trudie Bartholomew 2008

Getting over the Green Devil through Hypnotherapy for Jealousy

Jealousy is one of the most human of all emotions, and each one of us has experienced it at one time or the other. Jealousy towards your spouse/partner, jealousy towards a sibling, jealousy towards a co-worker, these are but a few examples of this human emotion. While in some cases this jealousy is at a controllable stage, there are yet others when this emotion just takes over the lives of people, and it is then that the warning bells start ringing. Some amount of jealousy is natural to all people, but when it becomes an obsessive trait there is cause to worry, for driven by this Green Devil, we end up hurting the people we love and causing mental torture to both them and us. Once you have identified this emotion as one that has to be dealt with, hypnotherapy for jealousy is one of the most effective routes you could take to control it.

Jealousy, is a result of an over active imagination and an underlying insecurity. As someone rightly said, “an idle mind is a devil’s workshop”. This misguided imagination makes us do some terrible things. You can’t stop thinking about your partner, each and every innocent thing that he says and does, seem to take on epic proportions of infidelity to you. You find yourself imagining scenarios about your partner, and in the process torment yourself. You know that it’s not good for your relationship, but you simply can’t stop. Jealousy can be tragic and devastating to a relationship, it can create bitterness beyond imagination. In some cases it can lead to domination, controlling behavior and even physical violence; and I do not need to wax eloquent on how effective these things are in killing love and relationships. If you realize that it’s time to keep a check on your jealousy, you have already taken the first step towards bettering situations. Hypnotherapy for jealousy will take you a long way from there.

As I said, jealousy is often caused by our insecurities; hypnotherapy for jealousy takes stock of the past and present events in your life and identifies the core issue, which might be the catalyst to such behavior. Once the trigger is identified, hypnotherapy for jealousy helps you get over the negative emotions, through the power of positive thinking and auto-suggestions. Insecurity is effectively dealt with by changing your self-image and perception. Your self esteem is boosted by auto suggestions, and this reflects in your outward behavior. Your fertile imagination is weeded out thoroughly for unwanted scenes and undesirable stimuli, to give it a more healthy and positive outlook.

Hypnotherapy for jealousy works faster than you can imagine. Your partner will be astounded to see the new you, and it is needless to say that it will bring about a dramatic positive change in your relationship. Gone are the ugly scenes and the nagging suspicion, both you and your partner will benefit from these changes. If you stop imagining things, and learn to trust your partner, you will stop torturing yourself mentally. On the other hand, with this renewed trust your partner will feel less threatened and controlled, and will subconsciously react in a positive way towards you. Remember that though you feel your overwhelming love for your partner justifies your desire to control his/her actions, you know deep down it is not the done thing. Add to that the fact that chewing your nails while imagining worst possible scenes involving your mate, and an imaginary “Other” will bring you no good. So its time you got yourself a manicure for your hands, and hypnotherapy for your soul.

Top Five Ways Hypnotherapy Can Help You Reach Your Goals

Modern day use of hypnosis, or hypnotherapy, has become a popular method for people seeking to improve their lives. Hypnosis offers people the opportunity to try and eliminate bad habits and improve things like their confidence, memory, and even their athletic skills.
One of the best ways that people can use the positive effects of hypnosis to their advantage is to get rid of bad habits, especially those that can affect your health.
Hypnotherapy has been used as an effective way to treat people who are trying to quit smoking. Many experts agree that hypnosis is a superior way to attempt this, because it doesn’t require the use of any medications.
Hypnosis can also be effective for people who are trying to quit smoking without the negative effects of withdrawal or weight gain that can accompany smoking cessation attempts.
Eliminating stress is another way that hypnosis can have a healthy, positive effect. Stress is a common issue among many people, and when it’s severe, it can cause serious mental and physical problems. Hypnotherapy is an option for people looking to break the habits that cause stress in their lives.
Another important issue plaguing people today is the challenge of losing weight. Again, hypnosis has been used widely and effectively to help people manage their weight, learn to focus on and reevaluate their eating habits, and take control of their weight management.
Beyond helping individuals with their bad habits, hypnosis can help to enhance people’s natural abilities. For instance, for those looking to boost their memory, hypnotherapy can be a great option to increase focus and retain information.
For people who want to increase their athletic ability, hypnosis can help you get “in the zone” for focus-based sports. It can also be a great help to endurance athletes that may need help when they “hit the wall.”
For people who are concerned about being dependent upon hypnotists for treatment, there are other options. Self-hypnosis is a great option for people who want to be in complete control of their own hypnotherapy treatment.
Self-hypnosis involves having a trained hypnotist give you the tools to be able to put yourself into hypnosis on your own. This means that when you need to focus, relax, concentrate, or be your absolute best at whatever your goal is, you can do it all on your own.
Hypnosis can be a very effective method for people looking to improve or enhance almost any aspect of their lives. When considering hypnosis or hypnotherapy as an option, make sure you do your research. Hypnosis has become such a popular treatment that you should have no problem finding plenty of good information on the Web.
Also, be sure to check that the hypnotherapy group or individual you choose offers plenty of information and are reputable. Another thing to look for is client testimonials and a money-back guarantee.
Testimonials can give you an idea of how other people responded to hypnosis and a solid guarantee can ease any worries you may have.